Hi my name is Leanne, I am 18 and I was 17 when I found out/gave birth to my beautiful 8 months old daughter Aveya.
Becoming a young mum at the age of 17 was very stressful.
Especially the fact that I was experiencing becoming a young mum “alone”. It really did have its downfalls.
The day I had my daughter I found it really hard to connect with her, as my labour was very traumatic!! I was not able to feed her asap and she was taken straight away to the special care. The feeling of watching her go without even holding her it burnt me, and I just wasn’t able to be with her.
After 8 hours she finally came back and I was able to feed her, but I found it so difficult.
I felt as if everything I was doing was wrong and I was worried she wasn’t getting enough milk.
I just panicked (I always panic lol) but with help and guidance from my midwives and my family, I was able to pick things up quicker and once I got home it started to get easier.
Now that my daughter is 8 months old, watching her grow is the most beautiful feeling in the world.
From her opening her eyes when she was only a few days old and just laying there looking at me when I feed her, too now crawling around, taping me and pulling my hair as soon as she wakes, it just makes me feel so proud.
I would say the best thing about becoming a young mum at 17, was learning to be more independent and having to not only fend for myself but now I have a responsibility.
Everything I do I have to/will always put my daughter first.
I would say to be able to maintain your independence, just do what you think is best for your child, because at the end of the day, your baby has nobody else to rely on but you.
Also become more mindful of the things you do, and the people you associate yourself and your baby with.
I know a lot of people say they don’t know where they would be without their baby, but honestly it is such a true fact.
My daughter is my best friend and my motivation.
She’s made want to do so much more with myself. Even though I’m young now and still unsure about what I want to do in the future (careers wise) I know deep down, I will be successful and I will do everything I can to give Aveya the best life, a better life than I had.
I honestly can’t wait for what my future holds.🖐🏾❤
I hope my words were useful xx
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