It is horrible to watch your ex-partner move on if you still have feelings, I think times like that if you do have feelings it’s better telling them than keeping them in as when you keep your feelings in it can hurt you even more.
Even though the outcome might not be not what you expect at least you know then where you stand if they don’t feel the same. If they don’t feel the same and you tried and expressed your feelings the main thing for someone to do then is just move on which is exactly what I’m doing now.
Who knows what will happen in the future but as long as you stay strong and remain calm everything will be okay.
With my situation with Ste moving on and me expressing my feelings towards him has now put us both in a very awkward situation. It has caused me and Ste to stop spending time together and we can’t even be friends anymore so we are now just being civil for Brooklyn’s sake. Me and Ste have always had a good friendship/co-parenting with each other and it’s horrible where we are now but that’s life.
I don’t want to cause any more problems and there was 3 of us in that situation, and for it to all stop one of us had to walk away which is me which I have found very hard but it’s best thing to do.
The good things about the situation is it shows you the support from your family and close friends, at least I know where I stand in the situation now and it’s time to move on with my life as you can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re reading the old one.
The bad thing is about this situation is it puts you in a very awkward place with the ex-partner and stops you from doing certain things.
Tips I would give to anyone going through the same situation as me is don’t go over the top like I did, tell them how you feel and if they don’t feel the same move on, you can’t keep chasing something that’s not going to happen.
Remember the most important thing in the situation is the child, do what’s best for them. Keep it civil and start creating your own life for yourself and your child. Stay strong and keep whoever it is at arm’s length as you can do it!
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