The worst feeling is knowing something is wrong with you once you’ve given birth and you’re not able to pin point exactly what it might be.
March 2016, that was exactly what was going on with me. Crying often, basically becoming mute (interacting with anybody made me anxious), the worst one for me was the fact that I only gelled with my son after a few days. I knew I loved him more than anything but the noise of “having a baby out of wedlock” and “not having a natural birth” was overshadowing the joy of my new born son.
It became too much for me and I was consumed with sadness, depression and anxiety but I refused to let anybody see what was going on with me therefore, I suffered in silence. I didn’t want to give anybody the opportunity nor satisfaction to say “another young parent not able to cope with motherhood”.
How I overcome postnatal depression
Quick note; pregnant women can also go through prenatal depression, which sometimes can leads to post-natal depression.
Personally, the way I overcame my PND is, I first became exhausted of being depressed. I felt like postnatal depression was robbing me from the precious moments that I should’ve had with my son but due to PND I was present physically but mentally there were moments where I just wasn’t there.
- Go see your GP/health visitor
- Exchange your negative and give yourself praise
- Keep yourself productive with something that will uplift your spirit
- Accept help from others – trying to ‘supermum’ doesn’t help the situation nor yourself
All in all, you need to put yourself first. As parents we tend to be so engulfed in being a parent we then start to forget who we are. Schedule alone time for you every day even if it’s 10 minutes –something is always better than nothing.
Moral of the story; don’t be alarmed for all the times you might have thought to yourself that you feel you’re not good enough.
Having postnatal depression does not make you less of a mother/father because it is something that can be treated. Most people found it taboo to talk about, but now that more and more people are talking about it, this allows people to know that they are not alone. You are not alone!
Don’t do as I did and suffer in silence. Tell somebody, your doctor, health visitor or/and somebody you know that has your best interest.
You are more than enough because you brought your beautiful child into the world who adores you and you are their perfect fit. You’re already a survivor and you WILL survive postnatal depression.
Getting support and help
Postnatal depression: If you think that you may be suffering from postnatal depression, it’s important to speak to your doctor or a health professional. YoungMinds, a mental health charity that specialises in child and adolescent mental health, provide a range of organisations that can help, which you can find here.
Suicidal thoughts: If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, it is so important to seek advice immediately from a member of your family, a friend or someone you trust. You can also call the Samaritans 24-hours-a-day on 116 123.
If you are in immediate danger or know someone who is, please call 999. It’s so, so important to reach out and talk to someone.