Kaiya, who gave birth to her boy Dean just a few days after her 15th birthday, shares how she has dealt with being judged for being a young parent.
Everywhere you go, they’re like ‘wow, she’s got a bump, she’s got a bump, she’s only a young one!’
I’m like, ‘do you know what? Things happen.’ I’m taking the consequences of having a baby, I’m putting my life on hold to bring this baby in the world and care for it and love it and make sure it’s got everything it needs. I’ve put my teenage years on hold and obviously, it was my fault that I got pregnant, if you want to put it like that but still, I’ve brought the baby into the world and I’m loving him and caring for him like any other mum would, no matter what the age is.
I remember one time…
I was on the bus, in my uniform, I was just starting to show, you know with a little tiny bump but you could tell and I was stood up at the bottom of the bus and there was like about 3 men at the top of the bus and they were just screaming ‘oh my God! Is she pregnant? She only looks about 10 years old!’
To humiliate somebody like that, especially when you’re pregnant, your self-esteem’s very low.
I don’t understand why you’d want anyone to feel like that or you wanna make anyone to feel like that but that was the worst for me. That really hurt me but I thought to myself, do you know what At the end of the day, I put myself in the situation, I’m gonna get looks, I’m gonna get stared at, I’ve just gotta ride through it. At the end of the day, it’s gonna be me with a beautiful boy in my arms at the end of it.
You have to deal with it, there’s no other option. You’re carrying a baby for 9 months, there’s not an ounce you can do. You’re gonna get people’s opinions, you just gotta get on with it.
Read more from other young mums like Kaiya:
- I’ve been judged as a young mum, by Emily
- Young, pregnant and proud of it, by Sarah
- Young mums have ambitions and we are worthy of respect, by Laura