Mia, who had Marliya when she was 19, shares what she feels is one of the main challenges of being a mum and how she balance advice from others and trusting her own motherly instinct.
Here’s what Mia says in the video if you can’t watch it…
Hi I’m Mia, I’m 20, from Southampton and I’m one of the cast from Teen Mom UK.
I just wanna say one of the challenges for a new mum, that’s a teenager, that’s just found out they’re pregnant.
I think the biggest thing, which people may have watched in series one, was my boyfriend’s family were really judgmental. Not really badly but like people would have little opinions – and not just my boyfriend’s family but my family like – they’d say for me to do one thing.
Obviously where I didn’t know anything about a baby or being a Mum, I’d listen.
And then I’d go to see my mum and she’d be like “oh, don’t do that, you don’t do that” and I think the pressure just built and built and built and built and I just had a bit of a breakdown for a couple of days.
I just feel like when you’re a new mum, especially when you’re a young mum, everyone tells you what to do.
Exactly how to look after your baby, what they need, what they don’t need and I think, obviously to an extent you need to take advice because there are so many serious things that can happen to your baby if you don’t listen to the advice.
Then to another extent, like petty things like don’t feed them this or don’t do this or don’t do that is like.
You don’t listen to it because you know what to do and you know the right thing to do.
When you’re a young Mum, any Mum, any mum knows what to do, you get your motherly instincts and people get like a perception I think of young Mums that people don’t understand like, what it is to be a Mum and because you’re young.
To a certain degree I have struggled because I am quite immature I think and to a certain degree I think I have struggled because I still have that immature mind. So sometimes I’ll be like ‘oh I’m gonna go buy that’ and then I think ‘oh no I can’t because of Marliya,’
But I think listening to everyone’s opinion’s 24/7 get into your mind and then you do start panicking and doing the wrong things.
So, I think my best advice is, to any young mum, is do what you think is right.
Listen to information that you get from like health professionals, family members and if you need help obviously ask – don’t do it all on your own.
But if you feel like everyone’s getting on top of you telling you what to do then just say to them “it’s my baby, I’m gonna do what I want, when I want and you can’t tell me.”
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