Alia didn’t know she was pregnant until she was quite far along. Here’s her advice on telling religious parents you’re pregnant:
Here are the highlights from Alia’s blog about telling religious parents you’re pregnant:
‘Basically I was a bit nervous because my family is Muslim and obviously they don’t take well to the fact that you being pregnant and not being married.’
Read Alia’s story:
Hi, my name is Alia, I’m 21, soon to be 22.
So basically, once I went to the hospital, I was feeling a bit ill and they told me I was pregnant, 13 weeks, that’s when I found out, quite late and then when I got home. I was a bit nervous because my family is Muslim. Obviously they don’t take well to the fact that you being pregnant and not being married. So, I went on to Google and I was like let me just try and find out facts about women that tell their parents that they’re pregnant outside of marriage. I saw this little blog of a girl, I think she was 21-22 and she said that she told her parents in a way.
Starting with my mum
She came up to her mum and said imagine if I was pregnant, how would you react to it? Well saying that Allah always says that you should not judge people by their mistakes and stuff like that. So I told that to my mum and she was like “well I don’t know what to say to you, we will talk about that later”. She went away then came back again and I gave her the scan and that was how it was, she took it nicely.
She was not really “give me my grandchild”. I had to do it basically on my own. Obviously, there will be days that she saw that I would be in really, really bad pain, she will take over.
My dad will not speak to me up to today, it is a bit sad. You know dads, they are always the pillar of the family so they are not going to be like “yeah it’s fine” then the family will be against it. My mum obviously she’s always caring, taking care of us. I did not expect that to happen but yeah.
I would say stand up on your feet and if that is what you feel like doing, do it. It’s your life. It’s not because your parents were brought up in a certain way that you have to be in a certain way. Obviously, they’re not going to be happy with you but try and obviously find a balance.
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