I was 15 when I had my son, I only had two things in my mind. Actually one – me and his dad were going to be together and that was it.
Anything that altered that, then I didn’t want it. I didn’t want to know about it but as I have got older, not to say that my priorities wasn’t my son when I was 15, but it wasn’t solely on being the best mum. It was trying to incorporate all the third party things, having a happy family, looking this way, having this stuff for him, which now I don’t look at that now as important.
Obviously, him having a relationship with his dad is one of the most important things ever for a child naturally. I think in regards to me, it’s about me being a best mum and me being in the best mind frame to be the best mum. I think as we’ve gotten older, obviously his dad has got older as well. We are now putting the arguments aside and just saying what is best for our son and what can we do for him, which is much better, so much better.
Tips for co-parenting
Tips that have helped me, is kind of not to add too much pressure that’s on us two as co-parenting, me individually and him to kind of not set boundaries but both recognise what is it that we both want to do. Do you want to see your son twice a week? Can I accommodate two times a week? Or whatever it is. Pressure is the biggest thing because I think when someone is adding too much pressure, it can add a lot of animosity to the situation.
The tip that I take personally is to never get upset actually the word is never expect too much.
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